Hot tips for a Kinky Valentine’s Day pleasure

MPHO MOTSIE-MABUDA

Valentine’s Day is here, and it is a time for giving and receiving from your lover. This year, let’s enjoy mind blowing blowjobs and toe-curling vagina massages as selfless gifts to each other as a couple.

Women need to be empowered and know that it is a personal right to be comfortable with giving your man pleasure. Usually, a man can brag to his boys about enjoying going down on a woman but once a woman talks about how she enjoys giving blowjobs she is labelled with very derogative names. As women we need to reclaim blowjobs for our own enjoyment and pleasure.

Road to Mind Blowing Blowjobs:

Enjoy it – the reason many women do not let themselves enjoy giving blowjobs is because of fear. Woman fear being judged. I have personally spoken to men, they prefer a woman who truly enjoys it. Imagine having a male partner going down on you and he is looking like he is about to puke and looking unsure of himself or reluctant to even go down.

Approaching your partner’s penis with negative thoughts about how horrible pre-sperm tastes or will it smell, already sets you up for failure. Nothing is more amazing than sharing a very intimate and pleasurable moment with your partner.

Sense awareness – Be aware and enjoy every sensation. The saliva is important so be conscious of that of his sounds, your sounds, the sensations and his fullness in your mouth. Listen to him and how his body reacts. Some men might tense up because of bad experiences they have had from getting horrible and painful blowjobs in the past, from a woman who was not sure of what she was doing. As his lover, connect with his body and get him to relax.

Different strokes – Make spiral movements with your mouth while its over his penis head. Use your hands on his shaft and it can feel like a deep throat and creates deep sensation. Another way to substitute deep throating is to use the roof of your mouth on the head of his penis.

You can also pop your mouth and hands off the head of the penis (lift your head and hands off the head of his penis again and again, this gives a different and enjoyable feeling) Make twisting movements with your hands while you suck on the tip. Don’t forget, the testicles also would love the attention, don’t leave them hanging!

Connection – Make eye contact with him as you are giving him the blow job and touch his chest, stomach and hips. Plant kisses and run your hands on his inner thighs.

Now ladies, don’t be scared to proudly say, “I Give Amazing Blowjobs!”

With a vagina massage you are not expecting her to orgasm but to make sure she experiences pure ecstasy. Women tend to not get enough sexual pleasure because of how society conditioned it. Therefore, let her experience please to the fullest, she deserves it!

Road to Ecstatic Vagina Massage

Set the mood – This creates a space that feels safe for the woman. This allows her to feel relaxed and this will lead to her to be fully open to allow herself to experience pure ecstasy. Light some candles, put a towel on top of the bed where she will lie on in case she ejaculates. Put a pillow under her buttocks. You also need to be comfortable to have the best experience. Don’t rush, take your time.

Massage her breasts while sitting between her legs or let her head rest on your chest as she lies between your legs. Use a firm stroke over her breasts. You can use an unscented body friendly massage oil. As you massage her encourage her to take deep breathes and feel what she is feeling and if she feels like it, she can make moaning sounds.

Warm up her pelvic area and inner thighs. Stroke in long movements up her inner thigh over her pelvis and hips. Encourage her to keep feeling and breathing make gentle circular movements over her pelvic area and stroke her clitoris on the downward movement.

Now stroke just her clitoris without bringing her to an orgasm. You can use your palm to make circular motions or three fingers. Spend about 10 – 15 minutes while allowing her to breathe. Not allowing her to climax brings ecstasy to her body. Build up her pleasure then allow her to go back down by slowing down then build up her please again then allow her to go back down again.

Now cup over vulva and do a grounded stroke where you press down on her pelvic bone and pelvic floor and do a circular stroke, you can move up and down depending on what she likes.

You support her and let her guide you and show you if she is okay to carry on. If she is ready for an internal massage you can massage her clitoris with your non dominant hand, then penetrate her using one or two fingers of your dominant hand. Do a gentle penetration, slowly inside and slowly outside. You can even do a g-spot massage if she is comfortable.

As  you continue to stroke encourage her to keep on breathing. If she is ready to climax, let her. Then she can relax afterward.

To be a Great Lover you need to be a Selfless Lover!

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